Consent is for all ages
You can talk to people of any age about consent. Children and teens need to learn how to express what they want and don’t want.
Asking questions, like “Can I come over?” “Can I hug you?” “Do you want to walk together?” are examples of everyday ways people of every age can practice setting boundaries in their communication.
Ask for consent before:
- Touching, hugging or kissing
- Any sexual activity
- Making sexual remarks
- Commenting on, taking or sharing photos of someone else’s body
When it comes to sex, consent must be:
- Informed – everyone needs to understand what they are agreeing to
- Voluntary – consent must be enthusiastic
- Given – a person is unable to consent if they are unconscious, drunk or high on drugs
- Mutual – respect each other’s boundaries and make sure everyone involved feels good about the decision
- Ongoing – consent can be withdrawn at any point so keep checking if your partner is okay
- Verbal or nonverbal – consent doesn’t need to feel awkward, as long as the words or actions are clear for everyone
- Drunk means no
- Later means no
- Silence means no
- No means no
How to ask for consent:
- Are you into this?
- Do you want me to…?
- Are you comfortable?
- Is this okay?
- Do you want to slow down?
- Do you want to go any further?
- It’s everyone’s responsibility to seek and receive consent.